If you have found this site, you most likely have lost a baby or are losing one. I’m so very sorry. I hate that anyone would need the information on this site, but I pray that it is helpful to you.
I’m aware that quite a number of non-Orthodox people have accessed this site and found it helpful and that’s good. It was never my intention to be exclusive about who is welcome here! Even if you don’t share my faith, please do avail yourself of the rest of the site. The pages that are most specific to Orthodoxy are Prayers and Liturgics and the Touchstone article. The Actual Process is entirely medical in nature and the Photographs page is just that. In addition, while many of the stories are about Orthodox families, not all of them are. All of this is simply to say that you should be able to find what you need comfortably without feeling like I’m forcing my faith upon you.
This site is always going to be a work in progress as more parents add their stories and photographs. In addition I will add any relevant news items here on the main page under this post. If there is anything you think should be added here or any corrections you would like to make, again, feel free to email me.
May the most Holy Lady Theotokos, the Mother of God, comfort you in your grief, as she has comforted me in mine.
-Matushka Anna
Lost Innocents 
Thank you for creating such a sensitive, honest, and sane website about pregnancy loss. I have lost three pregnancies in the last 14 months, and your stories and photos have brought me a lot of comfort.
Other than losing a pregnancy we might not share much in common, but your kindness is transcendent and unifying.
Thank you.
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Thank you, Anonymous. I'm glad you found comfort here.
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thinking of you, your family and your sweet babies in heaven and praying for each of you.
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Oh my heart aches terribly for you! I am so sorry to read about your loss! Wow. Words cannot express the comfort I wish I could give. I wish there was something I could do. You are so strong and I know the knowledge you have will be a comfort to you. You will be in my prayers.
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I am a man and I stumbled across a miscarriage video on youtube and I felt a great compassion for the young woman who expressed her experience. I was unable to be at peace after seeing the video so I searched the internet to understand more and read other stories. I've heard of miscarriages many times before but only at surface value. Now that I am more aware of the physical, and emotional pain that women experience, I will be in prayer for all you brave women who endure such a loss. I will continue to be supportive and sensitive. Thank you for sharing this blog and opening up my eyes and my heart.
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Anonymous, I am so touched that you (1) even watched a video about miscarriage and (2) searched around and found this site. Thank you for letting me know. This has not been an easy site to work on and it helps keep me going when I read comments like yours.
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Christ is born!
This is an excellent, timely blog. I've linked to it from mine. May the Lord richly bless you.
+JMJ,
~Theo
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I am in the process of miscarrying… I found out day before yesterday that my baby died 4 weeks ago. I haven't started spotting. I am not really cramping, either. I have opted for a natural miscarriage and have taken some Cohosh to help the process along since Teeny passed 4 weeks ago at 10 weeks. I am really horribly sad. My husband left for a special school yesterday morning, so I am all alone right now. If you have any thoughts or advice on how to get through this, that would be incredible. Thanks a bunch.
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Anonymous, could you email me? (lostinnocentsorthodox (at) gmail (dot) com)
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Thank you for your website, thank you for helping me cope. I am miscarrying now, I am 11 weeks, but I found out yesterday he stopped growing at 7 weeks. No heartbeat. I am thankful for the stories and most of all for the photos. God is good in ALL things, I find comfort in the book of Job- God gives and takes away, but still I will praise Him. My heart goes out to each family that goes through this loss. Again, thank you.
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Anonymous, I am so glad you found something that helped. (((hugs))) Thank you for leaving a comment to let me know.
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I lost my baby girl on October 25th 1986. On October 25th 2003 my first grandchild was born. I wept as I had every year since my baby Laura left me, but there was a tiny four pound little boy in my arms that God had given us. I cried again.
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Anonymous, I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter, Laura, but grateful for the blessing of the grandchild for you! What incredible timing.
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I am a christian and I have lost three very early ones. It was very challenging for my walk with God.
http://babymakingfromhope.blogspot.sg
I am still hurting.
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I just lost my baby today, at 5 weeks. I too am confused, and your questions to God intrigue me to ask them of Him myself. Yet, I do not because it is not for us to understand, only to lean on Him and trust Him. The gown and blanket you made were exquisite, showing great love in their stitches. Maybe I will borrow the idea of the ornaments…that way, the world may know that although I didn't have a physical baby on the outside, I was in fact 100% pregnant with a precious baby that we've waited five long years for. God bless you and than you for sharing your personal journey. So glad God led me to your page ❤
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This blog gave me immense comfort when I needed it the most. Every single one of these stories from all of these brave women and families showed me that I'm not alone in my pain and grief. The photos gave me an amazing reference for what to look for when my own miscarriage occurred, which led to my being able to say goodbye in the way I felt best for me.
I always felt welcome despite creed or lifestyle differences. Thank you for your open hearts and minds. Your faith is lovely.
My blog about my pregnancy loss, however there is strong language some might not find suitable or be comfortable with reading.
Thank you again, everyone here.
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Thank you for your very kind words. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Hi I'm 17 weeks pregnant and found out the fetus has no heartbeat. Ultrasound says development stopped at 16 weeks. Is it too far along in pregnancy to wait for natural misscariage/spontaneous abortion? Is going to the hospital and having the fetus induced a better option? I am worried about infection if I don't expel the fetus soon
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Alena, I'm so sorry for your loss. You've only been waiting a week at this point and that's not that long, thankfully. You can wait another couple weeks, unless you have signs of any infection or other problem. Your doctor/midwife will probably advise you to go with hospital induction in the event that you have not gone into labor on your own.
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This is nice to see a site like this to know people can get comfort in hearing others stories and getting and giving advice. Do any of these comments go public on facebook for everyone to see? I would like to share my story but don't feel comfortable if anyone can just see it?I want comfort from others who have gone through what I have but not want my facebook world to see and feel sorry for me
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The comments here are only public as this is a public site, but they don't automatically share to FB or anywhere else. If you would like to share your story you can even do so under a pseudonym. All stories (unless people put them in a comment on a different page) go on the Your Stories page in gestational age order. Also, there is a FB page for Lost Innocents (https://www.facebook.com/lostinnocents) that has an associated private community (https://www.facebook.com/lostinnocents) if you would like to join it.
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Okay. Thank you. I wasn't quiet sure how it worked.
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I want to thank you for what you’ve done here. I just found out that we’re lost our baby yesterday, but have not yet miscarried. My OB seemed keen to schedule a D&C right off, but I can’t seem to take that route so soon. Still, I’ve never experienced a miscarriage and was quite fearful until I came across this page. There is a wealth of sensitivity, common sense, tips, photos, stories, facts, and helpful information. I feel more up to the task now and I plan on sharing with my husband so we can be informed together. Thank you so much!
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I’m so very sorry for your loss, and hope you are able to complete the miscarriage in the way that is best for you. Thank you for letting me know this site has been helpful.
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I am going through a miscarriage now and it is horrible. The physical pain combined with the heartache. I am.sad, angry, scared, and I feel cheated. I was 16 weeks pregnant and started cramping. Hospital US confirmed that baby had stopped growing at 13.5 weeks and my body was naturally expelling the baby. They sent me home to “pass” the baby. My husband and I were totally unaware of what that meant. After 6 agonizing hours of painful labor pains my water finally broke and the bleeding hasn’t stopped since. That was 4 days ago. I have felt scared, angry, despair, hopelessness, emptiness & have struggled to care for the 4 young children I have who need me. This is the worst experience and the worst grief I have ever experienced. Struggling to understand how this is part of Gods plan.
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Crystal, I’m so very sorry. I understand feeling cheated. If you are still bleeding heavily (go to the Actual Process page for a definition of what constitutes too much bleeding) please go in to the emergency room. You may still have some tissue inside which is preventing your uterus from clamping down all the way to stop the bleeding. I know you’re feeling heart-wrenching grief, but please take care of your physical self too. Accept any help offered with house and child care and just get by on the necessities. You *will* feel better by and by, but right now it hurts horribly. I’m sorry.
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God bless you for starting and maintaining this website. By the time my miscarriage came to pass, I felt prepared for what to expect. Your advice on what to have on hand, what to do afterward, and your gentle reminders that we can take our time with our precious babies – that there is no rush – gave me much-needed courage and a measure of peace during the process of delivering and recovering my baby Panteleimon (9 weeks, 3 days). Thank you so much.
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby, Panteleimon. Thank you for letting me know Lost Innocents was a help to you. Memory eternal!
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