I had the blessing of talking to a long-time friend this weekend who has also suffered a loss – her 16 week baby a few years ago. Sadly, I found that she was both pushed into a D&C she didn’t want (an all too common occurrence) and afterward when she requested the body of her baby to bury, her requests were refused. To this day she doesn’t even know the sex of the baby. This is heart-breaking and angering. I’ve decided that this barbarism needs to stop. I will be contacting my local hospital (not the same hospital) and speaking to the director of pathology about their policies concerning the disposition of the bodies of babies removed during surgery. If that policy is not clear about releasing the body to the parents if they so desire, then I will do whatever necessary to make sure it is changed. Then I will speak to the director of preoperative nursing to ensure that patients are informed of their right to claim their baby’s body after a D&C or laparoscopy for an ectopic pregnancy.
This is just one hospital, in one town, in one state. I will not stop here, but I can hardly effect change in the entire country. Will you step forward in your own community? See what the laws are in your state. Contact your local hospital. The barbaric “custom” of refusing to release the bodies of our unborn children to us for respectful burial must end.
Update: I have been talking to Sherokee Ilse and will be merging my efforts in this direction with hers. If you have had an experience similar to that of the friend I described above, please email me (lostinnocentsorthodox @ gmail dot com (no spaces)). I would like to hear from you. I will be documenting some of my progress here.