“…one of the things I wished that I’d had was a blanket or outfit, sized for him. I remember them handing him to me in a standard sized newborn hospital blanket. He was only 6 1/2” long which was overwhelming enough. The blanket made it worse by swallowing him and emphasizing how tiny he was. In the emotion and shock of the moment, I chose not to have a picture made of my son. (One of the regrets that I live with every day.) Even now, I can’t look at his memory box from the hospital. There is nothing in it that is his… nothing that he touched… not one physical reminder that he was ever born. That tears my heart to pieces.
I got online and began to research organizations and companies who offered remembrance items, specifically for families who experience miscarriage and/or 2nd trimester losses. I was disappointed to find very few. It was then, that the idea for ‘You are my Child’ was born. The idea was simple: help families affected by miscarriage… attach more importance to the word miscarriage. Families should be provided the same support and resources that any other family, who has lost a child, would receive. During the weeks after I delivered, I found myself wanting to shout “I wasn’t sick. I didn’t have a medical procedure. I didn’t ‘just have a miscarriage’. I had a baby. He was my child.” I felt like some people thought because I didn’t carry my baby to term, that my grieving process should be less painful and somehow quicker.”
I have added this to the Resources page. I will be making some blankets to send to help with the memory boxes.
Lost Innocents 