So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. —Genesis 1:27
It can be worrisome thinking about retrieving your baby for burial. One of the problems is knowing what you’re looking for. If your baby is sixteen weeks gestation then there’s no problem recognizing him. It’s a different story if you’re six weeks. Looking on the internet for photographs to aid you is a sticky business because you’re likely to come across things you’d rather not have seen. Initially I culled the internet for some photographs of babies at each week gestation, but since then women have volunteered photos of their children for me to replace the “stock photos”. I have included sizes if the baby is not in a recognizable context, such as in a parent’s hand. A heartfelt “thank you” to all of the women who have graciously allowed me to post photographs of their babies. [If you have natural photographs of your baby and would be willing to include them on this page, I would be grateful to hear from you.] If the baby also has a story on the Your Stories page it is noted.
[NOTE ABOUT COMMENTS: As of December 2016 I can no longer access comments directly on the Photographs page. Some problem with Blogger kicked in after we reached the (apparently magical) number of 200 comments. So I’m just letting everyone know that until the bug is worked out I can’t respond to comments on that page. If you’re in need of a response, you can email me at lostinnocentsorthodox (at) gmail (dot) com.]
[Important note on recognizing the baby: Depending on how long it has been since the baby died, you may notice that the baby is smaller than you would expect for the age he/she was at death. Their size shrinks over time and so a baby who grew for eight weeks may only appear to be six to seven weeks at the time of delivery (or if another ultrasound is performed). This can be confusing to you. If, in fact, your baby died at six weeks but it is another few weeks before you deliver, you may not be able to see anything at all by the time you complete the miscarriage. Don’t feel that your baby never existed. As difficult as it is to experience, if you were pregnant, then you had a baby and you are that baby’s parent forever.
In addition, depending on the time elapsed between death and delivery, you may see something different in terms of the sac. Usually the amount of amniotic fluid decreases over time so depending on how much there was to start with, you may or may not see a nice, full “bubble”. In addition (and this is important), the uterus will form a clot around the sac/baby as time goes on. This means that you may deliver the baby in the sac very obviously, or you may deliver a sac with a clot attached, or you may deliver what appears to be a large clot or placenta but which is actually the sac enclosed in a clot. Especially if you feel as though you are completing the miscarriage but haven’t seen the sac, check inside the large clots. This sounds gross, but it will feel a little different when you are looking for your baby. The clot will be on the sac, not the baby (all things being equal) so you will still be able to remove the baby from the sac if you so desire. When my first son was born his sac had a large clot attached. It covered about 1/3 of the surface. When my second son was born there was no clot attached at all.]
Four Weeks (Four weeks gestation is counting from your last menstrual period and is about the earliest most people realize they’re pregnant. All dates are given from LMP.)
At this stage you may not recognize the baby for what it is. You may see a very small whitish or greyish piece of tissue, possibly with a cord attached, probably in a small fluid-filled sac. You will also probably have heavy bleeding with clots. It can be difficult to retrieve the baby at this stage. I suggest just retrieving the sac for burial if you wish.
|Four Weeks: 1/8 inch long (source)|
T’s baby daughter (4 weeks, 2 days)
As mentioned above, you will probably be able to identify only the sac, and even that may be difficult to identify as it can pass very easily without your notice.
Sara’s baby, Simsim, approximately five weeks
A very generous reader has shared photographs of her miscarried baby. Sara was about five weeks when she began cramping and bleeding. The next day she passed a small amount of tissue which her doctor had told her would be the baby. Since most people who miscarry will do so by six weeks it is very helpful to have photographs such as these.
What you are seeing is not only the baby, but the umbilical cord as well.
Sandra’s baby (a ‘blighted ovum’) delivered sac and placenta but baby not visible
A’s baby (5 weeks, 1 day; delivered at 11 weeks, 2 days)
Note that A’s baby was delivered a full six weeks after she miscarried. By this point, and considering how early the baby died, it would be extremely difficult to identify the baby, etc.
|(shown with Sudafed tablet for scale0|
My baby, Demetrius (5 weeks, 5 days; delivered at 9 weeks)
And the photograph below is a textbook photo so you can see the detail:
|Five weeks, 2 days: (source)|
Heavenly’s baby, Cedar (5 weeks, shown in sac) Cedar is one of a set of twins, his sibling being 11 weeks (see below under 11 weeks heading). They were born after expectant management.
Jennifer’s baby, Journey (approximately 6 weeks, miscarried at 10 weeks)
Notice the similarity to Sara’s baby Simsim, pictured above at about 5 weeks. Journey is still in the sac and attached to the placenta. I am assuming that the placenta kept growing for a while after the baby stopped developing, explaining the size.
|approximately 0.5 cm (source)|
Thea’s twins: The Ehlowa Twins (6 weeks, delivered at 10.5 weeks) [story]
[There are a few more photos on the Actual Process page that show the large clot containing the sacs before and after Thea opened it.]
Sara’s baby (7 weeks, 2 days)
Amber’s baby: “Our Angel Baby” (7 weeks, 4 days, delivered at 11 weeks, 5 days) [story]
|(This baby looks developmentally closer to 6 weeks than 7.5 weeks.)|
Zara’s baby: Joey (between 6 and 8 weeks)
There is confusion surrounding the actual age of Joey. At 8 weeks he measured 5 weeks, 6 days and was delivered at 10 weeks 5 days. However, while developmentally he looks 6 weeks gestation, he is much bigger in size.
|(labeling provided by Evon)|
|1.5 cm long|
Lisanne’s baby, Shiloh Rune [Story]
|Shiloh is in the middle of the photograph inside the sac, right on the edge.|
|Next to the sac|
Sarah’s baby, Grace (8 weeks, born at 9 weeks, 1 day)
Adalia’s baby, Malachi “Flipper” (8 weeks, 3 days, born at 12 weeks)
Rowan’s twin died at 6 weeks, and Rowan died at 8 weeks, 5 days. This was discovered at 9 weeks, 2 days.
Brittany’s baby, Sprout (9 weeks, 1 day) [story]
Valerie’s baby, Little One (9 weeks, 4 days) [story]
Myra’s baby, Peanut (9 weeks, 5 days)
Peanut died at 9 weeks, 5 days, and was carried for an additional 9 weeks. He was born at home after medical induction.
Candy’s baby, Kendall (9 weeks, 5 days) [story]
Shelley’s baby, Mason
Baby Bliss died at 10 weeks (per ultrasound) and was born 4 weeks later at home.
The baby was in the sac inside this clot (which also contains at least a portion of the
Hayley’s baby, Joey (between 9 and 10 weeks)
Joey died between 9 and 10 weeks and was miscarried naturally at 12 weeks, outside the sac.
|Still in the sac|
|In the sac, but after most of the amniotic fluid had been released|
|Just out of the sac|
|You can see details better when tiny babies are in water.|
|(slight distortion from the glass jar wall)|
|Perfect feet with all tiny toes.|
Faith’s baby, John David (10 weeks, 6 days) [story]
Heavenly’s baby, Arrow (11 weeks) Arrow is one of a set of twins, his sibling being 5 weeks (see above under 5 weeks heading). They were born after expectant management.
Xochitl’s baby, Angel (11 weeks, 5 days) [story]
Lynn’s baby, Lucia Libby (11 weeks, 5 days, delivered around 14 weeks) [story]
Eliane’s baby, Noah
(Noah looks closer to 13 weeks leading me to think that he was 11 weeks from conception, not LMP)
Lori’s twin babies, Ethan (11 weeks, 3 days) and Jonathan (12 weeks, 3 days) [story]
Amelia’s baby, Isaiah
Dawn’s baby, David (reported to have died at 14 weeks, delivered at 16 weeks, but much larger than the typical 14 week baby)
Amelia’s baby, Micah
|(Micah’s legs are resting on his belly; you can see the stump of his cord in the middle.)|
Diana’s baby, Owen (16 weeks, 3 days)
Morgan’s baby, Emerson (17 weeks, 3 days): “Induced after we found out his heart had stopped within the previous 24 hours. He was born with his cord wrapped three times around his neck.”
|160g (5.6 oz) , roughly 9″ long|
Jamie’s baby, Gabriel (17 weeks, 4 days)
[I do not have permission to post these pictures, but there is a lovely series of photographs of Gene and Melodie’s son, Caleb at this link. They have graciously allowed me to link back to them.]
Diana’s baby, Sophia (17 weeks, 5 days)
Natasha’s baby, Jeremiah
Makayla’s baby, Joshua (21 weeks, 3 days) [story]
Brittany’s baby, Marshall (24 weeks)
Melissa’s baby, Calypso (29 weeks, 5 days) (Note: Calypso was born alive and lived for 23 days before entering Heaven.)
|13 inches, 3 lbs, 1.9 oz|
Trish’s baby, Evelyn [story]
Dawn’s baby, Hannah Grace
Here are some sites that have parent-submitted photographs of still-born and miscarried babies. The majority are later gestation but there are a few earlier gestation. These sites generally feature portrait type photographs.
Missing Angel Foundation (This site is primarily of later gestation to full-term babies.)
Stillborn Angels (This site has a few more early gestation babies.)
Stillbirthday (This page has been recently created and has babies classified by gestational age, similar to this page)
[Additional note: There are frequent visitors from pages containing arguments that an X week baby does not look like a baby (and therefore is fine to kill). Look at this logically: We all start from two cells. How can two cells look like a three month old? Those cells divide and divide etc. and eventually you can see the beginning of eyes and arm and leg buds (not to mention the complex workings inside). The ad hominem argument that is most frequently used is this: “Such and such model of a tiny baby doesn’t look exactly like the real thing therefore all pre-born babies are fine to kill.” Because the nose on a silicone model, used to give people the idea of what a baby at X weeks looks like, is slightly more prominent than on the actual baby doesn’t mean the entire model is a figment of someone’s imagination. If anyone has any doubt about what an 8 or 10 or 12 week baby looks like, you need only look at the photographs above. If you’re trying to convey this information to someone else, I ask that you please do not copy the photograph, just link back to this page. Thank you.]